The League of Wives by Heath Hardage Lee

At the beginning of the Vietnam War hundreds of American soldiers were considered either missing or captured, and President Johnson’s administration approached their families with a simple message: keep quiet. With little information sharing, most families did just that. But then footage started appearing from North Vietnam confirming the worst. In one video, Admiral Jeremiah Denton discusses how great he’s been treated, but his eyes tell another story— literally, he blinks out a message in Morse Code: TORTURE.

And that’s when most wives of service members could no longer remain quiet.

There are some stories that are so unbelievable that it’s imperative for historians to eventually explore what happened for a broader audience. Fortunately, author Heath Hardage Lee has expertly crafted these wives’ experiences into an engrossing, revealing narrative. She’s done this by tapping into a common thread for these women— frustration. Frustration at war. Frustration at being unable to speak publicly in their grief. Perhaps above all else, frustration at the lack of attention when they finally did go public. This is palpable on the page as they navigate the bureaucracy of Washington and the stubbornness of Hanoi all in the name of finding answers.

While the broad history of this movement is fascinating, it’s Lee’s exploration of how this frustration shaped the individual women that makes this work so compelling. There’s a rotating cast, though Lee remarkably keeps each of the wives distinguished and memorable. Led by the captivating and focused Sybil Stockdale, most balked at the idea of becoming activists. And yet they bonded to form support groups that eventually expanded into the National League of Families of American Prisoners and Missing in Southeast Asia.

Today, it’s frustrating that the story of this courageous group of women isn’t more renowned. However, Lee’s tremendous work finally gives them some of the celebration they’re due.

Title: The League of Wives
Author: Heath Hardage Lee
Publisher: St. Martin’s Press
Publication Date: April 02, 2019
Classification: History, Nonfiction

Lee’s Website | Publisher’s Page | Goodreads

Note: I received a free ARC of this book through NetGalley.


  1. Great review! This sounds like a long overdue book, and a fascinating read.

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    1. Most definitely long overdue, but I suppose that’s part of what makes it so fascinating!

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  2. macsbooks311 says:

    For far too long we didn’t even talk about the Vietnam war, hell, we didn’t even call it war. In fact, when I was in school it was considered “too controversial” even to be included in textbooks so we literally skipped from the Kennedy Assassination to Watergate. No lie. However, some of us actually remember those men, the blinking, the interviews, and these brave women. It’s not a “memoir” for us, it is part of our collective memories. I suspect that if we still put the real news on the television now like it was then, there would be far less war and killing today. We wouldn’t allow it just like we did not allow then. Out of sight, out of mind.

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    1. It’s baffling how little we talk about Vietnam. Part of what drew me to this book in the first place was the realization I never discussed it in school. At least it was in our textbooks, but we just never got around to learning about it. But then we have a bizarre way of talking about any war in this country … So many reviewers, myself included, have written about this book as an ‘untold story’ or ‘little-known history’, which feels so weird since these women worked tirelessly right out in the open. They struggled to bring their husbands home, and it was collectively tucked away as soon as the war was “over”. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. Insightful and thought provoking as always, Mackey.


  3. fuonlyknew says:

    It’s something that needed to have a light shone on it. Great review!

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    1. Thanks for reading! It really is such an important story.


  4. carhicks says:

    Great review Christopher. This is such an important story that needs to be told.

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    1. It really is— and it’s a fantastic bonus that it’s told so well here.


  5. shortgirl says:

    Thank you for sharing this important book–and writing a great review of it!

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    1. Thank you for reading! It really is such an important story— and expertly written, at that.

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